My Great Helper

I realize most of you was talking about their children, expect me. Ha ha ha.... Well.... Since today i have more time and can be on computer a bit longer, i will like to share with you about my life and my boys too. I think it very important to me. Because it let me think how God actully blessed, take care of me and goes through those good and bad time together. Most of you know i had 3 boys. Two older are from my 1st married in the world. The last baby that i had now, is from married in the kingdom. Let's talk about my two older sons, and put my baby aside. Ha ha ha...

My two older boys are Mark who's now age 14 and Louis who's age 12.5. Most of you seen them grow up when they will only age 2 and 3 years old. Yeah, now already big and young man to be. Ha ha ha... What special about them are, they are my great helper. They both learn lot of life skills in just 4 years. You will wonder what kind of life skill they have. Let me share with you one by one. Let's talk about my first born first.

When Mark was age 8, he start to be home alone after back from school from morning classes. To him is normal until my mom come over and fetch him to her place until i back from work. Mark was always very mature in lot of ways. He's the one who go through everything in my life. How my ex-husband treat me, how my married break down, how i go through divorced, how i lose my job, how i face finance problems, how much i cry and so on.... He only very young age but he know lot of things and what going on. All those things happen does not affect his schoolwork. In opposite, he do well in school. He don't get good mark but i very happy when he get 65 to 70. That's all i ask for. He never complain what other kids have and he don't have. As young age, he know how to take care of his brother (Louis). He will protect him when they will alone in playgroup/at home or other places that without me. He will bath Louis and change his clothing. I can trust him whatever he do and i know he never let me down.

What about Louis? Well.... He's the person who don't know anything what happen around him. He always get protect from me and Mark. He don't do well in school and also get between 30 to 40 mark during the test. I see his teachers more than i see Mark's teachers. I hate those teachers who know how to complain a lot and don't understand what single mom's life is about.

Of course after i go dating in kingdom and within two years, i get married to a military man. Lot of things had been change. My two boys go to International School and are doing very well in school. I get lot of support from teachers and they willing to teach my boys from all over again to catch up. My boys are very happy and they loves that school more than Singapore local school. As my husband, he's self discipline and know lot of life skills. He been Navy for 16 years, all he was alone and do everything by himself without parent. He don't need me to wake him up, and he don't need me to wash or iron his uniforms. He's the one who teach my boys to be more independence, instead of mommy..... mommy.... all the times. Example: wash his own clothing and fold his clothing too. Sweep and mop the house, wash dishes. Since everyone have to stay in the same house, so everyone have to do the part of it. If my boys don't wash his dirty clothing and have no clothing to wear, they don't blame me, but themselves. Because they know what's is important.

After i give birth to my baby, and very shorty we move to US to stay. Within this two years, i face as single mom again because my husband hardly are home. He's 75% of his time in a year is at work, and leave me alone to handler everything in the house. I really needs help with baby and i have no one to turn to. I don't know any disciples here expect my leader. I don't stay with in law that three hours driving away from us. I really get stress out in stranger country, and don't know what to do or handler. Expect doing housework during weekend. I teach my two older son to handler baby and take care of him. They learn to bath a baby, change his dirty diapers (no matter is poo or pee), make milk, feed him, clean him, bring him out for a walk, play with him and so on.... I sign them out for Amercian Red Cross to get baby sitter cert. They learn the right way of handler baby, when to call for help and important are CPR. In US, kids below age 12 are not allow to be home alone. If someone complain, parent will be in trouble. Parent have to go for classes and also get record. So families who's like us, don't stay with parent and in law, will get baby sitter for help. They pay between US$6 to US$10 per hour and also depend how many kids in the house too. After my boys get the cert, they earn lot of money during summary school holiday. A lot of people in our area needs baby sitter with a cert and CPR. From there my boys know how hard money to earn. On top of that, they also learn to cook. So during every school holiday (no matter is a week or three months), Mark and Louis have to cook once a week for the family. What they want to eat, they will cook. I just prepare ingredients on the table with cookbook. They will do from start to the end.

That's the life skills they have. They complain to the Bible Talk, they perfect to go back to school instead of school holiday. Because they have to do housework, cooking, baby sitter at home. I told them, there's no free meal in the world. Everything have to work for it. In future, they move out of the house to go collage or married, they know how to take care of themselves, just like what my husband doing now. So, here's my two great helper.


Miss you
Diana